Kevin H: The Abedini Tragedy

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  1. Em says:

    my first thought as i read this post is that it is the ACLJ that has an obligation to give a public accounting, rather than the Abedinis… as to the abuse – what we need to know is that it is being addressed by competent counsel, that’s all we need to know
    when the dust has settled, perhaps there’ll be a story to tell – dunno

  2. Paige says:

    Thank you Kevin H….. very well thought out and written.

    (I am wondering if you intended the use of the word “abuser” in this sentence “It takes a lot of courage for the abuser to speak up. In this case, Naghmeh has drawn our attention to a lot of smoke.” Did you mean “abused”?)

    The whole Abendini mess is peculiar. I feel that I was misled and lied to. The ACLJ radio programs sound like infomercial advertising.

    While I never contributed money to the cause, I did contribute a good deal of angst and prayer…. My prayers continue.

  3. Michael says:


    Thank you…I’ll fix that now.

  4. Kevin H says:

    Thanks, Paige.

    Yes, you’re right, that is a typo. Was supposed to say “abused”, not “abuser”.

    Michael, if you see this, can you make that correction. Thanks.

  5. Kevin H says:

    You beat me to it before I even asked.

  6. Michael says:

    I should have caught it last night…my apologies.

  7. Kevin H says:


    I’ve never given money to the ACLJ either. Although I certainly followed a lot of their information about Saeed.

    And I think you’re dead on about their radio programs. I’ve never sat and listened to a whole one, but they always came across very strange sounding to me. The infomercial likening I think is quite apt.

  8. Kevin H says:

    No need to apologize, Michael. I was the one who screwed it up in the first place. One letter sure can make a difference sometimes.

  9. ( |o )====::: says:

    When all this has run it’s course will anyone other than me continue to ask why it could EVER be considered noble and praiseworthy that a man should leave his wife and children to fend for themselves and to go to a place far away, disobey a government’s clear warning to stop proselytizing and place himself in clear and present harm to be arrested or worse?

    Is this just too sacred of “an Ideal”, too “sacrificial”, too “oh brother so-and-so is so willing to suffer for Christ” that it continues to be ignored and not discussed or addressed?

    No “Christian” vocational call should ever require a person to neglect their spouse or their children.

    Someone step up and address this absurd evil within the Christian culture!

  10. Kevin H says:

    G, I think there are many with you asking those same questions.

  11. Michael says:


    I think that is a very valuable point to be discussed in this mess…

  12. Josh the Baptist says:

    I think we hit on those points pretty strongly a week or two ago.

  13. Em says:

    G has spotted the question that is worth addressing in depth, spinning off of this issue IMHO
    there’s a whole lot of adventuring that masks itself as sacrifice for Jesus…

    but then there’s a whole lot of adventuring that gets rationalized as noble all over the place – i know of mountain climbers who leave wife and children to fend for themselves for the noble cause of the top of a mountain … if your cause isn’t strong enough to hold off establishing a home and family, then maybe you shouldn’t serve – whatever the cause, eh?

    interesting to think on…

  14. ( |o )====::: says:

    Sorry, I missed the discussion, it’s a workflow thing.
    Please summarize, is the notion soundly repudiated?

  15. Xenia says:

    I will agree with you, G.

    In my world, mission projects are usually the work of celibate monastics who do not have ties to a wife and children. That’s scriptural, by the way.

  16. ( |o )====::: says:

    Mountain climbers and trekkers are not shaking down the Christian community in the name of being “persecuted for Christ”.

    Any guy or gal who forces their spouse into the dilemma facing the couple in “A Walk In The Woods” puts their spouse into a conundrum.

    What I’m talking about is Saeed’s blatant disregard of the gift of a release and warning from Iranian authorities.

    The man is willful.
    The man disrespects his wife who is his equal.

  17. ( |o )====::: says:

    Thanks Xenia.
    Agreed, Jesus makes it clear that there are those who forego a spouse & children for the “eunich” life.

    Those of us who do not owe it to our children, spouses, and our Christian communities to be examples of men and women who love and respect their families, no matter how passionate and idealistic we are.

  18. Josh the Baptist says:

    I think so, G. I thought we discussed it, but looking back, I may be wrong. Can’t find it.

    Anywho, yes. I man is responsible to and for his family. I won’t say what God will or will not call a man to do, but for my part, I wouldn’t change jobs, churches, or anything unless all members of my family were totally on board and ready to go with me.

  19. ( |o )====::: says:

    I can say, based on what I read in the Bible, The Father, Son and Holy Spirit will NEVER call a person to abandon their spouse & children.


  20. Martin Luther's Disciple says:

    We send families out on the mission field. We have 2 families in our church that return within the past 3 yrs after 10 plus in Africa. One family has 6 kids.

  21. Josh the Baptist says:

    “I can say, based on what I read in the Bible, The Father, Son and Holy Spirit will NEVER call a person to abandon their spouse & children.”

    Agreed. Maybe that is the discussion that I am thinking of. That Saaeed needs to be home now, working things out.

  22. Heather Wiedefeld says:

    Kevin H. You state in your article,..”I really wish this could all go away from the public arena”….It can, if you would STOP WRITING ABOUT IT!!!!!! You’re the one constantly dragging it through the mud! We all have our own thoughts and opinions about this sad situation. I am tired of reading your pious attempts at notoriety! LET IT GO!

  23. Josh the Baptist says:

    Let’s say Kevin let it go.

    Would that stop the two main subjects to stop posting it on social media every other day or two?

  24. Heather Wiedefeld says:

    It would if everyone finally stopped commenting on their posts! There would be no fuel for the fire!

  25. Michael says:


    I know few people less concerned about notoriety than Kevin.
    Disagreeing with articles is one thing…making it a personal matter, quite another.

    If the stories offend you, your device came equipped with a mouse, touchscreen, or touch pad.

    Click…and whoosh, you don’t have to see it anymore.

  26. Kevin H says:


    I do wish that this could all go away, but as I make plain in my article, I believe there are reasons that it shouldn’t and can’t. Reasons that I believe shouldn’t be ignored for the sake of justice and righteousness.

    And I’m not sure how I’m the one “constantly dragging it through the mud”. This is the first time I’ve written an article on this situation. Yes, I have commented about the situation here and another place or two on the internet when the subject was already brought to attention by others. I fail to see how I am somehow the chief “muckraker”.

    And lastly, thank you for judging my heart and seeing through my writings as vain attempts at notoriety. If you knew me just a little bit, you would know that I am one of the last people on earth who seeks notoriety. Yes, I have plenty of faults, but egocentric attention-seeking is not one of them.

  27. Josh the Baptist says:

    “It would if everyone finally stopped commenting on their posts! There would be no fuel for the fire!”

    But why blame the people who are watching and trying to make sense, rather than the ones who are constantly airing their laundry?

  28. Michael says:

    Well said, Kevin.

  29. Em says:

    #16- point well taken… the focus here IS on what makes for an honest Christian walk…

    but i thought it fair to point out that the rationalizing of adventuring as noble while doing so at others expense is not confined to Christians
    sometimes those who love and want to serve the Lord are conflicted, but Paul in the 7th chapter of First C*rinthians does a pretty good job of expressing the mind of Christ where serving God and taking care of family is concerned IMHO
    FWIW i have a very dear cousin who was heavily involved with YWAM for a number of years, finally our uncle told him to quit panhandling and get a real job 🙂

  30. Heather Wiedefeld says:


    Yes, I have seen your comments, and those of others, on the internet from time to time, and I share your concerns. However, it was not my intention to “judge” you. I believe that if we all take our hands off this situation, God will be the one to take care of the “justice and righteousness” that you mention.

  31. Em says:

    even tho i am probably one of the ones who feel that it is difficult to not step into the description of being a busy body in other men’s matters when the Abedinis are discussed, i completely agree with Michael @ #25

    Kevin H comes across here as very much one of the good guys and, if memory serves me, he contributes here as a favor to Michael?

  32. Josh the Baptist says:

    Heather – tell that to the Abedinis. They desperately want us all involved.

  33. Kevin H says:


    God will take care of the situation one way or another. Many times when there is injustice or unrighteousness taking place, he will use humans to step up and say something and do something about it. And so rather than have all humans take their “hands off”, he compels some to put their “hands on” and works through them to accomplish his ends.

  34. Kevin H says:


    I come across as one of the good guys? I must put on a pretty good act. 🙂

    And it’s not necessarily as a favor to Michael that I write here. But it is because of his prompting.

  35. Michael says:

    Kevin has been a huge blessing to me and I believe to the readers.

    My hope is that he will keep writing and we get to keep posting what he writes.

  36. Em says:

    Kevin, maybe my definition of a good guy isn’t stock 🙂

  37. Jlo says:

    It’s official Kevin H is a blogger. He has been told to mind his own business and had his motives questioned.

  38. Michael says:


    You’re right…he’s official now. 🙂

  39. Josh the Baptist says:

    He’s sitting in his underwear in his parents basement!

  40. Kevin H says:

    C’mon, Josh. I sometimes am wearing my pajamas, too. That’s if they haven’t gotten too stained up from the Cheetos that I’ve been eating for 3 days straight.

  41. Josh the Baptist says:

    You are on a bean bag chair, right now!

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