The Blessing of Grief: Should We Mourn Kobe?
He was a hero to me and a symbol of things that form my soul.
I grieved his death deeply and those that know me know that grief has subsided, but not ended.
I did not “know” Bowden in any significant way, but felt deeply connected to him and his work.
What he did, how he did it, and what he represented to me, resonated so deeply in me that grief was the only proper response to that loss.
So it is with millions of people and Kobe Bryant.
This is not a bad thing.
One can only grieve as deeply as one has loved and love and grief are from the same family.
Anything that provokes us to feel either is a blessing, though often a terribly painful one.
Grieving means you’re still alive, still capable of feeling love and loss, and still capable of sharing that which reflects the fact that we are made in the image of God…even if it’s grief over someone you don’t personally know.
When an entire nation grieves it is an opportunity for us to get in touch with the better angels of our nature as a community and a country.
It should…change us all for the better.
So, if you feel grief over the death of Kobe Bryant, feel it to the fullest without apology.
We should never have to apologize for feeling loss…it’s a recognition that things are not as they should be and the unspoken hope that someday they will be.
Mourn with those who mourn, weep with those who weep.
Finally, there are those who do not mourn Bryant because he did not represent something noble or virtuous to them but something dark and dreadful.
Respect them as you desire to be respected…that’s another sign of the presence of our better angels…