The Blessing of Grief: Should We Mourn Kobe?

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  1. Em says:

    “One can only grieve ad deeply as one has loved” words worth pondering….
    Sometimes only God’s grace gives us strength to go on

  2. Paige says:

    Wesley Towne released a Better Days Podcast message on this subject. It is very sweet.

    I love that he stated. “not every loss has a silver lining” and ‘not every loss has a lesson”. We’ve all heard way too many sermons glossing over loss and grief that ignore normal human emotions.

    I enjoy the Better Days Podcasts, on the subject of mental health and suffering. Highly recommend.

  3. Totally agree with you, Michael. For me, Kobe’s actions made it hard to like him. I just struggled looking past his lecherous behavior. Mainly because there was a victim; a young woman who was crushed by Bryant’s attorneys and many in the media.

    Yet many of my old So Cal friends love Kobe and are truly feeling a sense of loss. I feel no need to impose my feelings upon them. And, in the greater scheme of things, I feel for Kobe’s family and friends. Death isn’t something to cheer about.

    FWIW, I felt great loss at the death of David Bowie, and his early years were an absolute wreck.

  4. Duane Arnold says:


    Re: Bowie… you were not alone.

  5. There’s a meme going around with a photo of the other victims encouraging people to post so they won’t be forgotten or overshadowed by the coverage of Kobe. I see it as sincere yet also not so. People die every day around us. Why not pull local obits of those that seemed to have died before their times and post about that? It’s about emotional investment.

    In high school, a popular and truly nice junior girl died in a head on collision the morning following our first sober grad night. She fell asleep at the wheel driving home in the morning. Her younger sister was a passenger, yet survived, albeit with a permanent limp.

    Our small high school of 800 was in tears and future sober grads forbade students driving home in the morning. Who could have known? The yearbook committee did a full page picture and tribute to Jamie the following year in which she would have been a senior. My mother didn’t like that Jamie crossed a double yellow and killed the driver coming the other way, a young pastor with a young wife and baby who had a tiny CC start up in one of our small towns. My mother didn’t like that this fact wasn’t acknowledged.

    The community focused upon our home girl and ignored the other victim.

    Was it right? Wrong? Neither? Or just a community mourning one of its own.

  6. Pineapple Head says:


    I’ve never grieved the loss of a celebrity like a did for DB. I so liked the person he became after marrying Iman, and even more after the birth of Lexi. A man of grace, humor, intelligence and kindness. I was actually surprised by how much I felt planet earth was artistically poorer the day he left us.

  7. Muff Potter says:

    I like the content of your closing sentence Michael (what Lincoln called the better angels of our nature).
    In some strands of the Christian religion there is no such thing as a ‘better nature’, sin is always the default condition of humankind.
    There was a time when I wouldn’t have dared question this idea.
    I now flatly reject it.

  8. brian says:

    In my personal experience about grief especially in faith communities, one word came into play. DONT. That summed it up, Don’t. Don’t grieve, don’t need, don’t make a mess, don’t bother management, don’t be a pest, don’t need attention (especially God’s), etc.

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