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  1. Reuben says:

    You know I resonate with 4.

    Doug Wilson is one of the most disgusting humans ever…

  2. Michael says:

    #4 is my personal theological conviction after years of study. I understand it won’t resonate with many…but it will bring life to those it sings to.

    Wilson is depraved…

  3. LInn says:


    Fourteen years ago this week my sister and I found out that our mom had terminal lung cancer. There had been odd symptoms for several months, but nothing conclusive-then some extra tests, and we knew (I already knew because i had looked up the tests on the internet). It was a very difficult three weeks before she passed, and yet a relief the end finally came . My sister and I took turns staying with her, and hospice (in the nursing home) did a great job caring for our mom. It was hard, but I was also very aware of God’s love and care for all of us. I’ll continue to pray for you and your family.

    As for Doug Wilson…I think he is a pompous burro and should be muzzled.

  4. Michael says:


    Thank you for sharing your experience…it’s a road most of us will have to walk.
    If my mom were able to change her attitude, she could prolong her life…but she seems unable to do so.

    I concur about Wilson…

  5. Captain Kevin says:

    “Pompous burro” – Great description, Linn.

  6. Captain Kevin says:

    #2 – exactly. I honestly don’t want to be alive if the time comes that someone has to bathe me, spoon feed me, or wipe my behind.

    #6 – Grrrr!!!

    #7 – I would agree. When the truth about memories and situations will only create more confusion, sadness or anxiety, you say what you need to say.

  7. Michael says:


    #7…I have to learn how to do this…it shouldn’t be so hard for me, but it is…

  8. Janet Linn, BrideofChrist says:

    In a different article about Doug Wilson, the author writes; “But Wilson places a lot of trust with men in this system (of voting). After all, if the heads of households are men, they get most of the voting power and we must trust them to be considerate of their wives and daughters while making their household vote; yet nothing holds them accountable to do so. Why would this model be preferable to a fully democratic model of voting? Wilson explains that in this model men are enticed to take responsibility and come to church because they will be given power. So while Wilso claims he doesn’t want to exclude women, it is the assertion if male authority motivating his beliefs. It is clear that Wilson’s logic has influenced other church leaders in their opinions about women voting in the secular world. Bnonn Tennant, co-author of Wilson’s book ‘It’s Good to Be A Man’, has said womans’ suffrage is a “rebellion” against God and that ” voting is an act of ridership. Since ridership is not given to women, women should not vote.” https:/ women-should-t -have-the-right-vote. I was told by a church leader from the pulpit at Calvary Chapel Vista that as a married woman I had no right to vote, so clearly Wilson and his followers are influencing other church leaders. In this day of # ChurchToo and with all the scandals of sexual abuse of girls and women in churches pouring out, it seems that giving men more power without accountability Is the last thing America needs.

  9. Janet Linn, BrideofChrist says:

    Correction: “Voting is an act of rulership” If the link above is broken, the quite above us from an article by Mallory Chalk is from Baptist News Global.

  10. 1-2. My wife and I went through this with my mom 10+ years ago. Sometimes it was very difficult (especially for me [my wife is a much kinder person than I am]). But my mom was in a good facility, and slowly-by-slowly God worked through all the pain to move me perhaps a little closer to the way I should be. These things are not easy. And yet he is there, even in this. Do not despair.

  11. Tim says:

    Michael –
    I am sorry for what your mother (and you) are enduring. I will be praying for you.

  12. Duane Arnold says:

    “I’ve had to make decisions in the last 48 hours that only God should make…”

    It is our age, and the age in which we live. I’ve had to make such decisions for my mother, father, two brothers, my mother-in-law and father-in-law. It does not become easier or less painful, but the decisions have to be made. Praying that you’ll have strength and wisdom in the days to come…

  13. Rob Murphy says:

    Praying, Michael, I don’t have adequate words. I was studying Mark and Jesus’ own family didn’t understand him, at all, so I’ve taken solace in his rejection by his own and the hope that my tears only invite his compassion.

    @1,2 – I laugh at all the old guys with the Rapture Retirement plan but here I am with ‘My Only Hope Is Heaven’s HMO’. I have benefited from modern medicine and I’ve watched it do horrific things up close and personal. The human body can be wonderful and can be a terribly terrifying mechanism. When I was stronger, I was braver. Now, in my weakness . . .

    @6 – our help don’t come from around these parts. Govt always finds a way to worsen a bad thing.

    @Jonathan Menn – thank you for Biblical Eschatology, it’s an amazing resource.

  14. Michael says:

    Thank you, Tim and Duane.
    Thank you, Jonathan.

    Rob ,we truly are strong in our weakness….

    If you liked Biblical Eschatology, wait until you see what’s next…Jonathan has been busy…

  15. Nonnie says:

    My dad suffered from cancer of the esophagus and finally went on hospice care and morphine. Looking back, he probably would have lasted/suffered a few more days if not on the morphine. but after 48 hours on morphine he passed peacefully as his wife, children, and grandchildren held his hand told him they loved him, sang for him. During that time my cousin and I changed his diaper and cleaned him. I look back on that 48 hours of serving his personal hygiene as a holy privilege. I sang to him, prayed over him and treasure every minute. Don’t fear of needing to “wash feet” in Jesus’ name.

  16. pstrmike says:

    I remember the difficult of dealing with my parents in their final days. I reflect back and wonder if I could have done it differently; done it better. It all happened so fast. These are decisions that God passes on to us, and we hope for the grace to do the right thing to honor Him and the deceased in process.

  17. Michael says:


    That’s beautiful…

  18. Michael says:


    As you painfully are aware, my personal mantra is “do the right thing”…I hope I have.

  19. Janet Linn,BrideofChrist says:

    I’ve been avoiding this subject as it’s still painful for me – I lost my mother to Alzheimer’s five years ago. She had made the decision herself while still in her right my mind that she didn’t want any feeding tubes so when she lost the ability to swallow, her directive dictated that nature would take its course. She died within a few weeks, but that is what she wanted. She was 87 years old. It was difficult for my father especially – he had major congestive heart failure 4 weeks after she died ( never diagnosed with it before) He was in the hospital for a week. I flew out to Florida from San Diego and checked him out of the hospital and brought him back to his assisted living apt in the same retirement community that my mother’s Alzheimers unit was situated. The director called me repeatedly saying I could NOT bring him back to his apt. I ignored her messages and brought him back to his apt. anyways. I stayed with him for six weeks nursing him back to health. Then he left the retirement complex influence and done moved in with my brother in Wisconsin. My dad’s heart dr. In Florida told me my dad”would be lucky to live until Christmas” He was wrong; my dad lived in Wisconsin, where my dad was born, for another seven years! He lived until the age of 96, and my brother took him by boat on the Missippi River to the island my family has owned for three generations on a regular basis . They’d spend the day in the house on the island where my Dad’s older brother and sister were
    born. My dad was intelligent and wise and caring right up until his death a year ago. I miss him terribly! I pray regularly that he’s in heaven with my mother, the love of his life, and that she’s free of Alzheimer’s in heaven and they’re happy together once again.

  20. Josh says:

    I’m sorry you are going through so much right now. Life can be brutal. You handle hardship with much more grace than I do, and that’s an inspiration. Hang in there brother.

    Re #3 – The best things I’ve learned about God in the last few years are the things that are actively hidden by my former family of churches.

    Re Douglas Wilson – It is a relief to not have to reconcile stupid stuff like this anymore. Oppressing women is wrong just like slavery is wrong. You can make a biblical case for any sort of evil you want. Following the spirit, and doing what is actually right, is so much better.

    I’m still not convinced on universal reconciliation, but I am convinced of a loving father who runs to meet us and weeps with joy as he dresses us in his finest garments. I hope everyone gets to experience that. The bible seems to say otherwise, but as already noted, my understanding of the bible is rapidly changing.

  21. Donna says:

    My mother suffered from Lewy Body Dementia-she was always kind of mean but the dementia removed all remaining filters, and she was just horrible to me as her caregiver. It came time to make decisions, and the day I signed the hospice paperwork, I looked my mother in the eyes and asked her if she believed Jesus died for her sins, she looked at me with more clarity than I had seen in years and said yes. She died 6 weeks later, but I believe even if she hadn’t had that moment of clarity, God in His infinite mercy and grace would have still been merciful and gracious towards her…”But God, who is RICH in mercy…….”

  22. BrianD says:

    I resonate strongly with 5, just a little bit less with 4 (but maybe I’m getting there).

    I resonate with the first few words of 7: “I’m the worst person in the world to be a caregiver”, yet here I am, thankfully (for mom and I both) just on a partial part-time basis. God has used my Mom greatly in my life and the world will be a different place when she goes Home…I hope that is not soon but I want what is God’s best for her.

  23. Michael says:


    Being a caregiver is difficult and exhausting…but it’s holy work. You’re the best she could hope for and you’re both in my prayers.

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