TGIF
When my old friend Smokey died , it seemed like a part of me died with him.
I’m at that age when the losses pile up and crush you…the weight of the Fall suffocates us.
Loosing my companion led to depression…no matter how difficult things got my feline friend had been there for me, a comfort as I navigated life’s difficult waters.
The most difficult water was being the caretaker for my mother as dementia continued to ravage her brain.
Those close to me thought it best to move her to a facility equipped to handle such people with grace…I thought it best to try to allow for her to die at home among familiar surroundings and with her own cat.
I believed this is what the Lord would have me do.
I try to honor what the Father wants.
It has been…difficult.
My godson and his mom (who has been a friend for 30 some years) saw that I was drowning and made up reasons why Liam should live with me after growing up with them.
He and I had always got along well…I was there when he was adopted and we have been buddies ever since….so Liam came to live with me.
It was an adjustment for both of us.
My other cats had all been strays I rescued from the bushes and the streets and their gratitude formed a bond between us that will last beyond all of our deaths.
Liam, on the other hand…had never wanted for anything, ever.
He was well fed, well cared for, and well loved.
When he moved in it was almost as a roommate who paid half the bills…he wasn’t simply happy to have a home…he’d always had one and this one better be good.
The trouble started when my strays who’ve ate here for years moseyed in for lunch.
Liam made them vacate the residence in haste…he’s a big boy and they fled in fear.
I let it be known that this was utterly unacceptable…this was their home too when they chose it to be.
Liam could not understand why I would allow such low life in the house…and let them eat his food out of his dish.
Today, Max and Cinnabon can walk in and eat…even scratch on the door to be let in, if I’ve closed the cat buffet for the night.
Liam watches, even occasionally glares from his perch on the bed…but there are no growls or threats from him.
The strays are still a bit nervous , but nervous is better than hungry and they still have a place to eat.
What changed Liam?
I never “punished” him…I did chastise him and express my disappointment in his manners.
He changed…because he wanted to please his father.
I know that if he had a choice, he would whip both strays soundly and take a nap.
He’s choosing to be better than that because it pleases me when he is.
I don’t know about the rest of you, but I find myself doing a bunch of stuff I don’t want to do and not doing a bunch of stuff I really want to do.
I want to say things I shouldn’t say and do things I ought not do.
I do the hard stuff…because i know it pleases the Father.
It doesn’t usually please me.
Liam gets treats every time he behaves…we wait for treats that never come…in this life.
By faith, I believe we’ll get ours later.
“Well done, good and faithful servant…your good and faithful cats have been waiting for you”.
That will be enough…more than enough.
It will mean I really did please the Father.
That may be a first…
Do the hard stuff.
Make your own application…
I love this. Do good.
Thanks, Josh…we’re trying…
Do the hard stuff..well-stated!
My dad pretty much walked out of my life when I was in my teens. I didn’t mind as he was violent and had already destroyed two marriages. It was a relief not to have to deal with him. About 25 years ago my dad began reaching out. He also was on his third marriage and his new wife was very nice. It was some counseling, some short visits, and just Ephesians 6:1 about honoring your parents. He really had changed. I’m going down south for my fall visit next weekend, thankful for the positive communication we have established. Going through the reconciliation process also helped me understand God’s deep love for me in a new way. Hard it was, but I’m thankful God led me down that hard road.
I suck at doing hard stuff. Lord, have mercy.
Michael, *hugs* for your loss. And I’m amazed that your cat listened to you, despite stereotypes about kitties. Cats growling scare me more than those of dogs.
Linn: many blessings to you, and also for your grace. I imagine that it’s not easy at all.
so sorry you lost ypur cat, Michael
“If you are willing to bear serenely the trial of being displeasing to yourself, then you will be for Jesus a pleasant place of shelter.”
— Therese of Lisieux
Another great application Michael…as always. Thanks so much again for your writings. Losing our pets is so hard but what a lesson they teach about love & how much our Heavenly Father loves us.
Linn,
That’s an excellent application to this teaching…it’s the hard stuff that pays off.
CK,
None of us are good at it…sometimes just keeping on is hard stuff…
TNV,
I speak fluent cat… 🙂
Em,
Thanks, my friend. He’s safe and waiting for me…
Terry,
Printing that one out…
pslady…many thanks, as always…
I love that you love cats, Michael. I love that you love.
Re the Therese of Lisieux quote: If I don’t always bear the hard things serenely, but I do bear them, does that count to shelter Jesus?
Alex – There are degrees of “serenely”. Its the “displeasing to oneself” part that I am becoming more familiar with than I would like.