TGIF: On Grieving The Loss Of A Pet

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  1. Dan from Georgia says:

    Those who love deeply will grieve deeply.

    Those who don’t love deeply, or at all, will be cold and callous in the face of loss.

  2. Paige says:

    Thank you my friend. I cried as I read, am teary as I type and went to bed with tears last night as I prayed for you, relating to the loss.

    I have had to make that awful decision too many times, freeing a fur kid of his or her misery, signing the papers, watching the fur clippers, the needle, the life leaving and the beautiful eyes that I loved going blank.

    The term I use that gives me a minuscule measure of comfort is “severe mercy”. I’ve been in that position too many times and now with five current cats, know I’ll be there again. …

  3. Xenia says:

    When our dog Lily died last month, I cried for a week. I can still look at a photo of her and work up some tears. It does get better but the sadness never goes away entirely and that is a good thing.

    Our new pup, Daisy, is a consolation. We love, but we don’t love her quite as much as we loved Lily- yet. But we do love her and eventually we will love her as much because she is a good dog.. She is not Lily’s replacement, she is her own little self and she has really helped fill the void. But she’s not Lily.

    I don’t entirely trust people who don’t like animals.

  4. JM says:

    Dear Michael, we, here, have been hit by a number of things, so I have been unable to regularly tell you how much I continue to enjoy your postings. I decided that I must recognize this event on your behalf. They say pain is related to other pain. By that I mean when something considered “small” by other folks hits us hard, others need to be less shallow in their evaluations of what our reactions should be. We give you credit for so much more that has hit you over the years in addition to this situation and we are truly sorry that you are suffering this loss as well. May God send you words of grace and healing. May He confirm to you your great value and that of the love you show–even to furry little misfits. 🙂 I have lost both of my temperamental furballs in recent years and am too much of a coward to get another one and go through it again. It really does hurt. May God fill this void in your life in the kindest and most blessed way.

  5. Michael says:

    Paige, Xenia, Dan…thank you and much love to you all.
    What a group God has gathered here…
    Xenia, my heart goes out to you for your loss…

    Do to the unexpected kindness of my vet, Chester will be cremated and buried with me so we can await the resurrection together.

    Today, I need to get out of the house for a while…so Trey and I will be going to my lake for a bit.

  6. Michael says:


    Thank you…and blessings to you.
    Love again…a fur ball and you both need it…in time…

  7. Jim says:

    “Count the cost and do it anyway.” -Amen.

  8. Ike says:

    Sorry to hear Chester is gone Michael.

    You invested much love and patience with your cat.

  9. UnCCed says:

    I share your pain.
    I’ve accepted as myself and many other Combat Vets struggle with things many can’t imagine, including those which “support us” and “thank” us “for your service” (moments before reacquiring the dagger), that though God’s Word states His body is supposed to be the family, the reality is my cats (and I’m a dog person usually) and every dog I’ve owned has been divinely apportioned to me.
    Rather than continue to dwell on why humans, especially those which identify with Christ, behave the way they do, instead I accept the sheer miracle that are animals, and accept His grace whenever, wherever He delivers it.
    People say animals “don’t understand” or lack something else we humans possess.
    The only thing I care about with animals is they lack the ability to become infected with soul-killing religion.
    I’ve witnessed animals parachute (attached to their handler) into combat, walk ahead into IDEs, find explosives, etc.
    There’s a reason those who are trained in mental illness regularly prescribe animals for care.
    So my fellow animal beneficiary, I share you pain and fond memories of what I’m sure was, and will remain in your heart, God’s gift.
    I highly recommend watching the following film on Amazon to help mourn.

  10. dusty says:

    Great words Michael! Still praying and crying with you. Much love big brother!

  11. Em says:

    #9 – words worth thinking on… “soul killing” religion is addressed by our Lord, but the human race has a great capacity for both altruism and self absorbed hypocrisy …
    there are animals, too, that are not worth much, but books could be written about the good ones we have known.
    A mare and her brother, a graceful, gentle gelding were enjoying their turn-out with the other horses, munching grass in a 40 acre pasture. All the other horses but one – a nasty tempered rogue horse. The herd ignored this rogue, but it was creating quite a commotion way over by the gate. The brother and sister broke off from the herd and thundered across the pasture to attack this rogue who was rearing repeatedly, determined to come down full force on the girl who’d entered the pasture – kill her! The two young horses attack the rogue, saving their mistress’s life – my daughter… That was 20 years ago in Wyoming. We just buried gentle, loving Suds at the base of a Washington hill. In the afternoon his sister stands for hours on the spot where he died.
    A favorite set of books from my childhood were stories written by a man about his collies. A book was written about one of our German Shepherd puppies that was sold to a sheriff for search and rescue, badly burning his feet in heroic rescue work when Mt. St. Helens blew… We all have stories of heroic, goofy, quirky creatures that have enriched our lives. Stories that could be shared. Did God intend for them to be?
    I am grateful for Michael’s stories here of his kitties. I wonder how many that could be life lessons stay hidden in our hearts and memories. I recall Xenia’s kitty that joins them for morning Bible studies… ?
    I ask myself if it is right to give so much of our hearts to these creatures. Then once in a while i’ll see a homeless person walking beside the road, a faithful determined dog trudging along at his side… I think it is a different kind of love – a deep co-dependency that is part of God’s design and i have no doubt that loving an animal is alright – period

  12. Em says:

    I am way too pontificatory these days…. Pray for me to get a grip … ?

  13. Jeff Sheckstein says:


    I am so sorry and broken at your loss of Chester.

    Four years ago it became all too apparent that my bichon frieze, Jacques, had to be put down. He was deaf, blind and in chronic pain from a bad back. Despite later therapy, chondroiton, and other care, the only merciful path was to end his life. He was 16. I did my best to spend my last day with him, taking him to the lake and then fly fishing. He loved to see me bring in a fish. Walked him in his favorite meadow, then despite blinding tears, gathered him and my wife up for the drive to the vets. He knew something was amiss when they inserted the catheter and as I took out on the grass. We laid down, hugged and stroked him as the life left him. One week later the tears still flowed.

    I did feel some guilt over my feelings as the loss was greater to me than losing my father, who was so toxic.

    Jacques showed me love through some very tough times, especially when I left ministry with a doubt as to the truth of Jesus. Jesus, my wife, a few friends and ajacque got me through.

    I miss him even though I sit here with JoJo, my 8 lb. Malshi. He has not replaced Jacques, but also filled my heart.

    I so look forward to a day when I see Jacques again. You will have Chester over your shoulders wrapped around your neck and I will have Jacques and JoJo climbing over me with kisses.

    I’m so sorry for your loss.

  14. London says:

    I’m so sorry to hear of Chester’s passing.I know he was a great friend for you and that he will be missed.

  15. The Dude says:

    Loosing a friend is always difficult.Hugs.

  16. Captain Kevin says:

    “Severe mercy”…indeed.

    Hope you and Trey enjoyed your time at the lake.

  17. Captain Kevin says:

    Em, if praying for you to get a grip means that you will share less of your wisdom and wondering, please forgive me if I do not join in that prayer.

  18. Sharon Dooley says:

    Love what you said. Its perfect.

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