Spiritual Abuse : What Now?
Such seems to be the case in our discussion of spiritual abuse…it takes many forms and is difficult to define but when we see or experience it we know what it is.
The question I have struggled with the last few years is about how to not only identify it, but combat it.
This blog (and many others now) have attempted to address the specific institutions and their leadership.
Whether it has been Costa Mesa or the SGM imbroglio, that strategy has failed.
The recent response by Reformed leaders to the SGM scandals show that in spades.
They will not hear.
There has been criticism of some aspects of Calvary Chapel polity and numerous scandals publicized for at least the last 15 years…and absolutely no move to address them meaningfully by CC.
I don’t believe there will be any such action in the future.
In Colorado, a former CC pastor who was (eventually) removed from his position for a variety of sins, left the area and has now returned and set up shop again.
He is rebuilding where right where he blew up and incredibly, is finding a whole new flock to fleece.
I believe that situation will end up in disaster…but those people have the right to support the wolf if they see fit.
Why would they do that?
It is my opinion that the answer is not so much in exposure of bad guys (though that is necessary) but in education of the flock.
My desire is to equip people to be able to take responsibility for their spiritual health…to know what signs to look for that indicate a healthy church and what signs to look for that indicate a potentially abusive church.
I want to hear from you…especially those who have been wounded in the house of God.
What were the signs you wish you would have seen before you got hurt?
What do you look for now before you join a new church?
What questions should you have asked that you will ask before you join a new fellowship?